In the past few days, I have received so many messages from so many amazing young women whose heart strings have been pulled by hearing stories of others who can’t become Mums without a little help. Many have asked, How do I become an egg donor?
So I wanted to put this post out there for those considering it.
Firstly, in Australia, there are 2 ways to donate eggs; by known donation or Identity release. Identity release means that it is initially anonymous but that your information is given to the child at age 18. You cannot be totally anonymous in Australia.
Personally for me, I chose known donation for several reasons. As I began talking to these ladies, a friendship developed. I was able to choose who I wrote to after reading about them to choose someone I felt that I would get along with.
I wanted the excitement of watching these women become mums. It was the best thing about the process for me. We developed a friendship and watching them pregnant and become mums was one of the most satisfying things I have ever experienced.
One of the biggest misconceptions by intended parents is that donors feel some ‘ownership’ of the children or similar and we would want to raise their children. I laugh and tell them I am busy. I have a family, a job, a university degree to complete and a life of my own and don’t have time to raise their kids but they are welcome to raise mine if they would like to. lol*
In reality, it’s a gift. My affection is for the people I donate to and seeing their children is like seeing a friend’s child. They are just another child that I don’t share any huge bond with, but they’re a bit cute and I really like their Mums, they are incredibly inspiring women. And that’s that.
For the FAQ’s that answer some common questions, please click here.
For me, it was as simple as no longer needing my eggs and knowing there were women out there whose lives would be changed by the gift of egg donation.
People often ask if I still keep in touch with those I have donated to. I do. Although some are in different states, we keep in touch on Facebook, during visits, we have meet ups. I was their donor but now they are my friends, and for some, like extended family.
My children have special aunts and cousins. They know who they are and we have a really good relationship. I feel that known donation and everyone knowing the truth was best for my children as well as for the children born via the donations.
For anyone considering giving this beautiful gift, I could not recommend it enough. I have never felt richer than when I have given. It’s a gift that gives back every single day.